- The entire plot of Lord of the Rings: "Put that thing back where it came from or so help me."
So I don't mean to pry or be rude but do agender people and gender fluid people prefer the they/them pronouns, should you ask or would you refer to them as they?
its best to ask! if you arent sure and haven’t asked yet, it’s polite to use neutral pronouns (they/them) until someone tells you what they prefer (imo)
I tried google but I didn't find exactly what I was looking for, that's why I'm asking here. I'm looking for a short guide about words like cisgender, transgender, gender-fluid, etc etc making very clear the differences between them and what they mean Thx
OHHH ok sure!
Cisgender: Someone who identifies with the gender they were assigned at birth (ie cis women have vaginas)
Transgender or Nonbinary: Someone who identifies with a gender other than what they were assigned at birth
Transsexual: Someone who changes their sex
Genderfluid: Someone who’s gender is fluid and changing. Sometimes they might feel female, sometimes they might feel agender, sometimes they might feel male. The number of genders they switch between varies from person to person and they do not randomly choose their gender, it just changes for different reasons.
Agender: someone who identifies as having no gender (agender folk often use pronouns such as they/them, ze/zir, or ae/aer but those are just a few examples. its polite to ask their pronouns if you are not sure.)
Pangender (me): someone who identifies as having characteristic or traits of all genders. i use they/them but again pronouns vary from person to person.
AFAB/DFAB: Assigned/designated female at birth
AMAB/DMAB Assigned/designated male at birth
FTM/MTF: Used to describe someone’s transition, FTM=Female to male MTF=Male to female
Cissexism: Discrimination towards transgender people. Also referred to as transphobia, but I prefer the term cissexism because you aren’t afraid of trans folk you’re just an asshole.
THINGS TO KEEP IN MIND
- Do not ask trans people what gender they were assigned at birth
- Do not tell trans people they “look hot as a guy and as a girl” it’s really rude and ignorant
- Do not put an asterisk after the word trans. There is a misconception that this is the right thing to ddo but the asterisk was actually put there to inclue people who are “not trans enough.” Trans is an umbrella term and there is no such thing as not being trans enough so do not use the term trans*.
- It is polite to ask someone their gender pronouns if you do not already know them because it shows that you are not being cisnormative and do not assume pronouns based on gender stereotypes.
Okay that’s all I can think of at the moment. If you have anything else to add go ahead!
THIS POST COVERS GENERAL DEFINITIONS WHICH DO NOT APPLY TO EVERYONE. EACH PERSON HAS A GENDER IDENTITY THAT IS UNIQUE TO THEM AND DOES NOT NECESSARILY FIT INTO THE DEFINITIONS I HAVE PROVIDED. THIS IS JUST A GUIDELINE.